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As an exercise for a newly pregnant friend, we wrote out the Five Yogas of Apithological Parenting.
The conversation revealed that the prinicples of generative parenting are easy, its the practice that is impossibly full of the great joys of difficulty.
Focussing on the management of that joy for a moment, here they are:
1. Love 'em (just that - feed them frequently, love them constantly and they just grow)
2. Skinned knees are part of the experience ( if your protect them from all hurt, they'll just get hurt more).
3. You are the one responsible (they have to grow up to be responsible for themselves, and that's the one part you are responsible for, the rest is theirs - with you being the one who has to clean up if absent)
4. It's not personal - it's deeper than that (meaning - the 'I hate you' outbursts are a special place for self-formation that is reserved for this relationship )
5. They'll always be yours (meaning actually, that you'll always be theirs - forever, regardless - so why not make the very best from that opportunity, begining always)
While seemingly simple, if you look behind the structure you might find it hard to find a situation where this set of principles (when all done together constantly) lets you down. This is because they follow the apical structure of miminal elegance.
.. ask an apithologist to explain how it works sometime.
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